Long Hair, Don’t Care with Shaggy Loxx

Sometimes I look at women and think they have it all. Long lashes, long legs and long hair. Being dramatic, but still they are lucky. I’m using lash serum, given up on the growth spurt and now I have Shaggy Loxx extensions to give me long hair. So my odds of finding a boyfriend have to be increasing.

So let’s talk hair. Shaggy Loxx are clip-in hair extensions made from 100% human hair. What I especially love is that they were made by the cofounder Tim Emmert who has been working as a hairstylist for nearly 40 years. So ladies, Tim KNOWS hair. Tim owns the salon The Shagg in Colunbus, Indiana and when I went to get my extensions color matched by him (which you can do too) he was AMAZING. Hilarious. I laughed the entire afternoon with him and his business partner.

I love my Shaggy Loxx hair for many reasons, and here are just a few. 

  1. The hair color is multi-tone so it isn’t flat, looks more natural and blends in better with your hair.
  2. The hair clips don’t hurt your head. Some clip-ins feel SO heavy. I wear the 14”, 140 gram extensions and I can wear them for over 10 hours before I actually feel them on my head. And that’s probably because I’m constantly playing with my long, luscious hair.
  3. Long hair can be more fun. I love my short hair, but it can be boring at times. I get sad when I can’t have a cute side pony, braid or my short hair just looks like a bunny tail when it’s in a pony. With my clip ins it’s like I’m a whole new person.
  4. They are affordable. The price some people pay for extensions is INSANE. I recommend the 14” 140 grams and they’re only $160, plus use promo code ASHLEY10 or the link at the bottom for $10 off.
  5. They’re great for lengthening OR thickening your hair. If you don’t need/want extra length you can add them in just for additional thickness. You can cut/color them to perfectly match your hair.

 

Hair: Shaggy Loxx | Paints: Target | Shoes: Target Black | Shoes: Target Silver

To the Broken Hearted

I talk a lot about fashion (obviously, this is a fashion blog), my love for wine, and my bad dating experiences but I don’t often talk about me and my heart. I’m a fairly private person, I don’t easily share my feelings – it’s just who I am. However I’ve realized that by sharing our stories we can help others with theirs. Have you ever been through something and felt that you’re the only one who could feel that way? I’m here to tell you, you’re not alone. This is why I’m starting a new series of life posts, allowing you to experience a little part of my heart in hope that my story will help you with whatever chapter you’re currently living.

Here we go…

Life is full of highs and lows. During our high moments we feel happy, fulfilled, and ready for tomorrow. During our low moments we feel lonely, worthless, and not enough. For the last couple years I’ve been in and out of low moments. It all started with a boy (doesn’t it always). I was in my first real, adult relationship with hope that this could be it. I loved him, he said he loved me. Within a two week time frame, my boyfriend broke up with me, my Memaw passed away and my best friend was hospitalized with viral meningitis. I felt like God had given me far more than I could handle.

If you’ve ever had a broken heart you know how it feels. You feel physical pain from your emotional hurt. Even the strongest begin to feel weak and wounded. It’s as though in a single moment you become a new person. When your heart is broken it’s like an open wound, and even the softest blow of air can cause excruciating pain. I never fully understood the importance of guarding my heart until I had to guard a broken one. A broken heart desires to feel love, importance and worth while searching for it in ways that will likely only cause more pain. It’s just like when you’re really thirsty so you take a large drink of your water only to find out it’s your friend’s cold tea (EWWW). Drinking that cold tea only makes you more thirsty and leaves a bad taste in your mouth.

I tried so many ways to cover or heal my broken heart, but I learned (the hard way) the only way to heal a broken heart is to go to the one that created it. Trust me, I tried other ways and they only left me feeling worse. Deep down, I knew that God was the answer but I was being too stubborn to allow Him to help me.

So to those of you dealing with a broken heart, I know it hurts. It sucks. It’s awful. BUT THIS TOO WILL PASS.

Here are ten lessons I learned from having a broken heart.

1. Let go of the anger. I intentionally started with this one because if you don’t let go of your anger, nothing else will matter. Anger is a hard emotion to control, and only you (with the Big Guy’s help) can move past anger. Anger makes you react in ways that you typically wouldn’t. Anger can make you hurt those you love most. Feel the anger – go on a run, take boxing classes, go skydiving – let out and let go of the anger in a healthy way.

2. It’s ok to be sad. Life hurts, people hurt, and moments hurt. It’s ok to feel the sadness, to cry and to mourn. Whatever you are going through IS hard, IS hurtful, and IS exhausting. It’s ok to feel that. So cry, be sad and allow yourself time to experience how you feel. Let it all out so you can move on. And this is coming from someone that just doesn’t cry.

3. Don’t change your values or beliefs. When you have a broken heart, you’ll do anything to heal it and to prevent it from happening again. If you believe it’s important, it IS important. Don’t change your values for someone, find someone who loves you for your values. If it was important to you yesterday, it will be important to you tomorrow.

4. Don’t shut people out. My initial reaction was to close the door to every relationship. Someone I loved hurt me, who was to say that someone else I loved wouldn’t? Just because someone didn’t love you the way you’d hope, doesn’t take away the sincerity of the true love you do have in your life. Let people love you, it’s a great way to heal a broken heart.

5. Take time for yourself. Take a couple days off work, go on a weekend holiday. Whatever you need to allow yourself time to heal, reflect and mourn. Don’t try to hide it, go to work, or smile through a date. Rushing a heart that needs time to heal is like removing stitches too soon, eventually something is going to cause that cut to open up again causing an even bigger scar.

6. Be careful with your actions. When your heart is broken you become numb, you start to walk like a zombie through life not caring about what you say, think, and do. If your trusted friends, family, and loved ones are shocked by your behavior, you too will be eventually. It’s hard to make good decisions when you’re numb, so lean on your loved ones.

7. Turn to God. This one was hard for me and I’ve been a Christian all my life. I had a hard time turning to God because I was mad at Him and lost trust in Him. I blamed Him for the actions that I made, that others made, and how I felt. God has given us free will, and because of that we are going to be hurt and hurt others.

8. People love the best way they know how. This one was also REALLY hard for me. When my boyfriend broke up with me, I was devastated and expected everyone to react and help me in JUST the way I needed, when that didn’t happen I got angry and felt let down. It wasn’t until I realized that everyone loves the best way they know how, that I truly saw people did love me and were trying to help me. So give your friends, and family some grace – they’re trying.

9. You are enough. You are worth love, joy, peace, happiness, and so much more. Just because he broke up with you, she can’t be your friend, that company didn’t hire you, or whatever it was – YOU ARE ENOUGH. You are enough because you are amazing. God has chosen you, and you need to chose yourself.

10. Forgive yourself. We all make mistakes, we all sin – that’s why God’s grace exists. I use to think I could make it through life with little “mistakes”, that I would be graded and I was certain to get an A. That’s not realistic, we are sinners and we are human. I messed up a lot, and I’m going to mess up every day to some extent. Don’t let the guilt of your past keep you from living today. TODAY is so important, you don’t get another one. In the song “What a Beautiful Name” by Hillsong United it says “My sin was great, but your love was greater.”.

I hope in sharing my heart with you that you, at the very least, know you’re not alone. And these Dalmatians are adorable.

XOXO Gossip Girl

Do you ever watch a movie or TV show so intensely that when it’s over you feel like you’re a part of the show? After a Marvel movie, I leave the theater thinking Magneto is going to be in the parking lot and at any moment Professor Xavier will come take me to his school for mutants (of course at that point my mutant power will come to life). I leave suspense movies going to the bathroom like I’m an undercover spy. I leave sci-fi movies trying to open the door with my mind. Obviously, I have a wild imagination.

What is the point you ask?

Well… I recently finished all the seasons of Gossip Girl on Netflix. Side note, where is my Chuck Bass? I couldn’t help falling in love with his wooing and pursuing of Blaire while still being a little bit of an a**. Since I couldn’t go back to high school and sit on the steps of the Met over lunch, I decided I would adapt some of their fashion so naturally I needed multiple winter coats and purses that you carry on your forearm/elbow/not as a backpack like I normally do.

Honestly, I don’t carry purses. I usually try to tuck everything in my pocket, boot or I carry a backpack. So the fact that I bought this purse means I was in full GG character. The purse was a stretch for me, and I LOVE it but the RomWe coat was a no brainer.

Purchasing Tips:

Fit: Purchase the coat a size or two bigger than normal. It will stretch out as you wear it, so don’t be alarmed if it’s a little snug when you first get it.

Style: Wear it with anything. It’s adorable. Your’e going to be obsessed too.

Purchase: RomWe



Tips for Dressing on a Date

I’ve decided that 2018 is the year I say yes to going on dates. Blind dates, Bumble dates, set-up dates… Because why not? The good news is, I’m going to blog about them (no, I won’t name names) for your entertainment. These poor guys have no idea what they’re getting themselves into. *evil grin*

The point of me telling you this, it’s not just to tantalize your curiosity about my dating life, but let’s talk about what to wear on a date. First off, dating WOOF – if I’m going to have to sit at a table with a guy that looks WAY different than his picture, talks for 30 minutes about a spreadsheet or shows up drunk (yes those are all true stories) then I at least better comfortable.

I have three rules when dressing for a date. 

  1. Be comfortable. I don’t want to be constantly worrying if my strapless bra is going to fall off, or if my butt crack is hanging out of my skinny jeans while I’m trying desperately to not punch the guy who literally just ordered for me (again, true story).
  2. Be stylish, but approachable. This is a personal opinion, but I don’t wear the trendy outfit I would wear on girls night for a first date. I don’t need a guy knowing I’m high maintenance at the beginning, I like to let that slowly slip in. *evil grin again*
  3. Be confident. I have like three outfits that I just rotate for dates. I dream of the day I have to get a fourth one because it means I’m finally going on a fourth date. That’ll be the day I call my momma and tell her I’m finally getting wifed up!

I like this dress for dates because I can layer it underneath a sweater and it’s sooo comfortable. Not to mention the v-neck adds just a bit of “ooo la la”.

Sweater: Target | Dress: Lola Blu Boutique | Boots: Target

Pearls and Lace

I’m officially one week into meal prepping, eating countless amount of protein, and living at the gym. Next thing you know I’ll be walking around with a water gallon, wearing one of the belly-belt things and grunting while I bench press. But for now, I’m going to continue lifting the kiddie weights. It’s amazing how just one week of putting your health and fitness first can make you feel almost like a new person. Maybe by the time I get through all my photos from 2017 photos shoots you won’t even recognize me with all my muscles (said: mus-cles)? That made me lol.

Take note of the gorgeous wrap bracelets (that you might’ve seen on my story) by Victoria Emerson. I’m in love, I’m in love and I don’t care who knows it! With my Victoria Emerson bracelets of course. The combination of pearly and lace certainly makes a girl feel classy.

Shirt: Target Option 1 ; Option 2 ; Option 3 | Clutch: Anthropologie | Bracelets: Victoria Emerson

Shopping with a Wine Buzz

Over time I’ve developed a problem of drinking too much wine and then online shopping. What’s the problem you ask? The problem is, whenever I do this I tend to order clothes that are a little more risqué than I would normally wear. In my happy wine buzz state I convince myself that I need to dress more “sexy”. PSA: I AM NOT SEXY. Like I just can’t be. I’m far too awkward.

This habbit started all started when I was dumped (whatever) and decided I needed to make him regret his decision. So, I ordered a bunch of “revealing” clothing in my wine induced state while I watched and quoted one of my all time favorite movies, The Wedding Planner. I would like to say this was a low moment for me but I’m not ashamed.

All of this to say, my white unitard was something I ordered after half a bottle of wine. Don’t judge me, we all have our vices.

Jeans: American Eagle | Sweater: Target | Shirt: Forever 21 | Hat: Lola Blue | Sunnies: Lola Blue

New Year, New Me

Happy 2018! I know, I know I’m a few days late. By now all the funny “new year, same me” memes have been seen, you’ve likely decided that most of your resolutions are too extreme and you’re now counting down the days until warmer weather.

For me, 2017 was a learning and growing year. I grew, I made mistakes, I learned lessons and now I’m ready for a new year. So while I’m sure you’re dying to know all my New Year resolutions (yes, I am that girl that makes resolutions) I want to share with you the ones that could effect you!

  1. I spent time this past year exploring the dating scene more than ever, and let me tell you GROSS. Dating today is awful, and I’m far too old for the games. So this year I’m going to focus on meeting a man, not waiting around for boys. You’ll see this in my writings because naturally as I experience these boys in adult clothing, I’m going to be blogging about them.
  2. I shared with you earlier that this year I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and to help get my health back on track I’m working out with a personal trainer. So be prepared to be annoyed more health and fitness blogs!
  3. I put my blog on the back burner this year due to my personal life. As I mentioned, this year was such a year of growth and change for me. I learned more about myself than I thought possible, I experienced so much life (good and bad). I’ve learned that even though I’m crazy and want to be a rebel, I’ll always be a “goody goody” and that’s okay. I’ll be explaining what this means more this year through more personal blog posts (which will take a solid bottle of wine to get the nerve to post).

Over all, I’m excited for 2018 and I can’t wait to see what it entails. Do you have any New Year resolutions?

Also, I took these photos WAY back in 2017 and didn’t like them. So new me is okay with only posting one pic of old me. Outfit details below!

Skirt: Option 1 | Option: 2 | Sweater: Lola Blue | Option 2 | Boots: Option 1 | Option 1

Holiday Sparkle with Anne Klein

This shop has been compensated by Collective Bias, Inc. and its advertiser. All opinions are mine alone. #WatchHowIStyle #CollectiveBias

Tis the season for holiday gathering, parties and nights filled with cheesy holiday movies. While it’s easy to throw on an ugly sweater for your cheesy holiday themed movie night, it’s not always easy to style a look for your company party or your SO’s family dinner. I don’t haven an SO, but I assume it’s not easy. So regardless of the occasion I’m here to help! The hardest part about styling a holiday event is that you don’t always know how fancy/dressy to get, so I have a few tips for styling your holiday looks!

  1. Your little black dress (LBD) is the best +1. Black dresses can be easily dressed up or down and they’re classic.
  2. Handbags are your BFF. Roughly 350 days of the year I carry a cross body or a backpack as a purse, but during the holiday season I carry a clutch or a hand bag. Not only does it easily dress up your look, but if your sparkle clutch is too much for the holiday gathering, put it in your bae’s coat (or hide under a table, not that I’ve ever done that) and you’re instantly more casual.
  3. Keep a ponytail holder and bobby pins on hand. If you feel too dressy, then put your hair in a casual pony. If you feel too casual throw your hair up in a bun. With a ponytail and a couple bobby pins a quick “trip” to the wash room will have you feeling like a whole new person.
  4. Lip color changes everything. Darker shades will usually give the appearance of a fancier look, and lighter shades appear more casual. Bring two colors and do a lip change if you feel out of place.
  5. Accessorize! When you wear an LBD, let your accessories do the talking. Plus, for security place a more casual pair of earrings in your clutch and change them out if you show up dressed for the Oscars and well, it’s not the Oscars.

Regardless of weather you FEEL too dressy, or too casual walk confidently that YOU LOOK GREAT. Who cares if your Aunt Edna asked if you’re going to “change” when you were ready. You’re gorgeous, and Santa doesn’t care.

Now let’s go back to accessories. One tip I do have is to take off your smart watch and slip on a a classy Anne Klein watch. Anne Klein watches function as gorgeous, trendy pieces of jewelry that help you arrive to that party fashionably late not embarrassingly late. Plus, they come in a variety of different shapes, sizes, colors and materials to fit any woman’s fashion needs. My favorite is this gorgeous 4-piece Rose gold tone watch and bracelet set. Not only do you get a bracelet watch with mother of pearl dial but you also get 3 bracelets all featuring unique designs and Swarovski crystals. It’s gorgeous for you, or a perfect option for holiday a gift as all pieces come in a beautifully branded box. Plus, the bracelets can be mixed and matched. I picked up this beauty at Macy’s or you can purchase online or by hovering over & clicking on the last image! If you have a fear of the mall at Christmas time, worry not Macy’s jewelry is organized like a dream – just look for the Anne Klein counter!


VIIcode Oxygen Eye Cream the Eye Treatment you NEED

You know how we all have that one “thing” we see every day in the mirror? For me, it’s my puffy, under eye bags. I blame these little devils on my Greek heritage, and nearly constant sleep deprivation. Because this is my “thing” I’m even more picky about my under eye cream than I am about saying yes to a second date (and let me tell you I’m pretty picky about that as well). Finding a good date and a good under eye cream isn’t always an easy venture.

While I might not be able to find a guy, from the HARSHEST under eye cream critic, VIIcode Oxygen Eye Cream has passed my test and won my heart. VIIcode T2 Oxygen Eye Cream provides intense hydration while still quickly absorbing into my skin. Or as their website puts it “Uses an “exclusive ‘T2′ stone mortar extraction process’, which facilitates the healing and regeneration of damaged skin cells near the eyes by protecting this delicate area of the face and by fading away the first visible signs of aging.” Those are the kind of words and I experienced the kind of results that make a girl fall in love.

VIIcode Oxygen Eye Cream has an exclusive, uniquely engineered crescent activation strip that works as a massage tool. When you apply, first start by gliding the strip around the eyes to smooth and refresh skin, use the strip to dab the cream along the under eye area, then massage the cream into the skin around your eye. It’s that simple. I used this product every day, morning and night and I saw VISIBLE results. I swear that the lines under my eyes were so hydrated that they soften and were visibly reduced.

Give VIIcode Oxygen Eye Cream a try, and let me know what you think. I promise you won’t be disappointed!

A Winter Crop Top from RomWe

It’s too cold for a crop top. They say.

You’re too old for a crop top. They say.

You should be 100 pounds to wear a crop top. They say.

I don’t know who “they” are but they are wrong. I’m wearing this crop top and THEY can deal. When styling a crop top, keep it classy. You don’t need to bare your entire mid section, do wear high wasted pants and keep your head high because YOU LOOK GOOD GIRL. I like this crop top from RomWe because it’s actually a thick enough material that you don’t see right through it.


I bought these jeans from RomWe too and I sadly misjudged the sizing so they don’t fit properly, but they are the CUTEST. When you order these GORGEOUS bottoms, buy 2 sizes bigger than you normally would.

Shirt: RomWe | Pants: RomWe | Sweater: Target